In college, I asked my comedy writing professor for post-graduation advice.
He told me, "you're going to flounder around for a while, but it gets a lot easier when you finally figure out what it is that you do."
I understood that about 10% at the time. I'd say I'm now at about... 95% getting that.
A friend/colleague was kind enough to have a potentially very awkward meeting with me today. I bought her coffee, told her I admired her and respected her and her theater a great deal, and asked if she had any advice as to how I could become a better performer.
Then I took out my very dirty, very sharp pocket knife and began slicing slivers off my fingernails while I stared at her and said GO AHEAD. I'M LISTENING.
She gave me some good feedback. Good because it was hard to hear, but sounded fair and true. I'm trying to see myself -my skills- as a set of strengths and not a list of defects. it's not that I'm necessarily bad at X, it's just that my strengths lie in Y. You know, that stuff.
Also, I suck at X.
No! Stop that.
The problem is, I still want to be good at everything.
And my problem with focusing on what you're good at is that it's dangerously close to limiting yourself.